Bond with Your Teenage Grandchildren

With society’s increased reliance on technology, many people fear that we are losing the in-person interactions that help us better understand each other. Although spending quality face time is important, connecting online via social media and tools like Skype is a great option for grandchildren and grandparents separated by geography or unconventional family structures.

Teenagers prefer to use technology to communicate with their relatives, partly because of the instantaneous nature of the internet. In a study on intergenerational online communication, for example, one teenage girl reflected on the difference between keeping in touch with her grandmother who uses email and her other grandmother who refrains from any sort of computer use. She shared that it was easier to write to her grandmother who used the computer, especially since she is constantly online herself. Meanwhile, she described correspondence with her other grandmother as “having to write her whole letters back and the events are delayed and I am trying to think back to what happened.”

Technology does more than offer a platform for connection between generations — more importantly, technology offers grandchildren and grandparents a way to bond and learn from each other. Studies show that grandparents and their grandchildren develop important digital citizenship skills and form stronger bonds when exploring the internet and learning about technology together.

Seniors and teenagers benefit from this sharing of knowledge in a number of ways. In addition to being a positive role model for younger family members, connecting through technology allows seniors to offer their grandchildren:

• A listening ear — because they aren’t parents, grandparents have a unique opportunity to help troubled teens
• A stronger sense of cultural heritage and family history
• Time together online — seniors frequently have more time than family members who work

Teenagers have a lot to offer their grandparents too, including:

• A sense of purpose and value
• Companionship and love
• Knowledge around how to use the internet for more than communicating, e.g. to conduct research, play games, shop, etc.

• The Origins of Grandparents Day

  The roots of Grandparents Day go back to 1956 and a West Virginia mother named Marian McQuade.
  While helping to organize a community celebration for those over 80, she became aware of the many nursing home residents who were forgotten by their families. She wanted a holiday to bring attention to these forgotten individuals and to honor all grandparents. In 1973 West Virginia became the first state to have such a day.
  McQuade and others then shifted their efforts to the national level, achieving success in 1978. Grandparents Day is a real national holiday or observance, celebrated each year on the first Sunday after Labor Day, although it is not classified as a federal holiday.

  The Purpose of Grandparents Day

  The purpose of the holiday, as stated in the preamble to the statute, is "to honor grandparents, to give grandparents an opportunity to show love for their children's children, and to help children become aware of the strength, information, and guidance older people can offer."
  According to a news article from the Washington Post, florists and greeting card companies were overjoyed by the creation of the holiday.
  The Society of American Florists planned to spend $200,000 promoting the holiday. Hallmark predicted that by 1983 Grandparents Day would be the sixth biggest holiday for greeting card sales.
  The florists and greeting card companies shouldn't have bothered. Grandparents Day isn't listed on a ranking of the most popular occasions for greeting card sales.
  
  It is outranked by Christmas, Valentine's Day, Mother's Day, Father's Day, graduation, Easter, Halloween, Thanksgiving and even St. Patrick's Day. In the floral industry, Mother's Day, Valentine's Day and Christmas continue to be the major sales generators. I think that would have made Marian McQuade very happy. According to the website of the National Grandparents Day Council, McQuade refused all royalties and even donations associated with her efforts and spurned overtures from Hallmark associated with the holiday.

  How to Celebrate Grandparents Day

  Today many families celebrate Grandparents Day with family get-togethers. These need not be elaborate. A simple meal and time to visit will please most grandparents. Grandparents Day is also a great time to share some family stories or look at old pictures. Board games, card games and puzzles are fun low-key amusements. If the family would like an outing, a few venues, mainly museums, host annual Grandparents Day celebrations.
  It is true that some families celebrate by giving gifts to grandparents. It is equally in keeping with the spirit of the holiday for grandparents to give gifts to their grandchildren, especially gifts that celebrate family traditions.
  
  Maybe the main reason that Grandparents Day has escaped commercial exploitation is holiday burnout. Maybe time-poor parents simply don't have room on their calendars and in their brains for another holiday. If that is the case, grandparents still shouldn't let the occasion go by unnoticed. Most of the younger generation will be happy to participate if they don't have to plan. Remember that one of the purposes of the holiday is to give grandparents a chance to show their love for their grandchildren.
  If it doesn't work out for you to see your grandchildren, Grandparents Day is a great excuse for you to phone them, text them, FaceTime or Skypewith them, or even write them an old-fashioned letter.
  Of course, you could also send them a card.